Lorely comes out of the bathroom and starts asking questions...
"Mom, at what age are you a woman?"....
WTH? Where is this going ...
Me - Baby, you're a woman from the moment you're born.
Lorely - Oh, I thought you turn into a woman at 10, or so....Anyway, can I tell you something?
Me - Of course, what is it?
Lorely - I just shaved my legs in the bathroom...I don't know why, I just did. Both of them...
Oh, I just want to pull that hair right off her head. What the heck is she thinking? Doesn't she know how much worse it'll get. Didn't I tell her that if she ever wanted to get rid of the hair on her legs I'd take her to the spa to get it removed? And what is that about "I don't know why?" is she acting dumb? Like I believe it. I should've gone to check on them while they were showering. I knew it. I knew they were up to something. It just pisses me off...OK count to 10, don't scream at her or anything, she's trusting you isn't she?
So I answer
Me - Oy Lorely. Not a good choice. Why did you do it?
Lorely - It's because Chris (ds) told me I had hairy legs. And I felt bad. And so I wanted to get rid of the hair.
Me - Well, not a very good choice. I think it'll get worse. We'll just have to wait.
Lorely - Oh no Mommy, no! .... I'm sorry.
And off she goes crying...
And I feel like immediately calling my mom to ask her what to do. Heck, she had 12 girls, she's bound to give me pointers on this stuff. And to think Lorely is only 9. Gosh, she's only a baby. She's my baby. Lord, where has the time gone. I don't know who's suffering the growing pains more Lorely or me. But I think it's me, and this whole ordeal makes me want to cry...
Thanks for listening (or in this case, reading).
PS- And of course, being the bad mom that I am, I had to take a picture of her crying...I might even scrap the incident...maybe...
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18 comments:
Oh, wow. Poor thing...both of you. It is SO hard to watch them grow up & to see them become self conscious right before your eyes. I swear, it's so difficult for young girls these days, and they all go through it. It breaks my heart. :(
I think your capture really, really shows the emotion in the story. I think you SHOULD scrap it!
I know exactly how your dd feels. I had dark thick leg hair and my brother and sister used to call me monkey girl. I was also teased in school. So I always wore knee high socks (this was in the 80's). Anyways finally at 9 my mom let me Nair my legs, but I had a bad reaction. So I was allowed to shave my legs - with my mom's supervision. I must say my hair got thinner and lighter. Kudos to you for not getting upset at her and staying calm! So far dd Abby has blond white hair. I hope it stays that way so we can postpone shaving until 13! I really like the converion in shot #2. TFS the pics and story.
Oh my gosh, This defintly is something you both will laught at in years to come but poor Lorely feeling sad now about it.
I have that dark black leg hair too if it gets the chance to grow. Unlike lorieann my leg hairs didn't get light and thinner. How lucky can you get.
That second shot is my fav. IT really catcheed the whole mood....I think.
Don't feel too bad. I grabbed my camera today when my nephew stared crying. My mother walked in and told me to hurry up so that I could be a good aunt and pick him up. LOL
wait till she becomes a teenager! Ah the joy of being a mom!
Cristina, can you please teach me how to put music on my blog? or send me a link of the how to? Thanks so much!..my email is stephanyphotography@yahoo.com
oh, so sorry for your frustratiion...letting them grow up is HARD! my dds are pushing and fighting for it every minute of every day...13 and 14! great capture of real life!
Oh, such a tough moment. I'm getting the "where do babies come from" from my 5 year old and that's tough enough. I can't imagine. I'm sure you handled it the best way possible! Wonderful journaling and great photos! Thanks for sharing!
OMG..thinking of you! And the song just brings out the emotion in this:( It's so hard to watch them grow. I'm going to cry when my son starts school and doesn't want to hug and kiss me all the time like now. I think you should use those pictures. I love her pictures here. She's beautiful!
sad story---but I LOVE the photo! i think you should scrap this memory--at least journal it....
I love the first and the 2nd!
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I'm impressed. You handled that as well as you could, and you let us peek into your thoughts on the whole as well. I don't envy her the growing pains, nor you as you try to support her through it.
I love the second conversion as well- it fits the mood of the story as well.
I'd scrap it, but have it set aside where she won't read it till much later.
What a sad story! It's so hard to watch children grow up and go through all the feelings and emotions involved with growing and changing. Your journaling definitey brought back memories! I'm not ready for my DD to reach that stage...I'd like to keep her 5 forever.
Your photo absolutely captures the emotion in the story behind it. Great job.
Oh my - these are the days I am not looking forward too when my little ones grow up. I understand on the whole shaving thig - I really don't know what I would do. It's hard being a girl - my friend lets their 9 year old shave, she does a lot of cheerleading and the depression was worse then letting her just shave. Maybe if you take her to the spa she'll enjoy the royal treatment and you can avoid the shaving. Love the pictures, the emotion cpature, the actions, beautiful girl, great job.
Wait...you have 11 sisters? Wow!
Very heartfelt, honest entry here and you know what? It's very sweet as well...so telling for this age and the picture is just perfect to match the mood-not that that helps at all. If only now I would want to shave my legs...it's been 3 months (we don't shave in the winter here in Colorado;)
So sorry you both had to go through this. Sounds like you handled it well though.
If it makes you feel any better my baby girl, who is 20 now moved out this week and into an apartment with friends. Her room is empty and I haven't shed a tear until I read your post. They grow up way to fast. Tito hand me tissue.
I can totally relate to when my younger DD shaved her legs the first time, sneaking of course. You handled it well and got some great pictures. Hard to say which version I like the best. Love the music to go along with the story.
Take heart! I think it says alot about you as a mom that she came right out and told you!! These growing pains are not fun for anyone! Even my seven year old is more and more self conscious these days!
Oh my, kind of bittersweet in a way. I would be so difficult to mother a daughter through the 9-18 years. You did good, mom. I don't think I would have been as calm as you were. (((HUGS))) to both of you.
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